Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Sad, not funny

I've been watching a lot of television since i've been home recuperating. Not a day has gone by that I don't see something about Rihanna and Chris Brown. I think the entire situation is terrible and sad. The media coverage disgusts me, but we live in a tabloid society so I didn't really expect anything else.

Domestic violence has been an issue for a very long time. It's crazy how so many specials are popping up since the incident between these two young people occurred. I have yet to see one that makes me think people care about the many women who suffer through this disgusting existence every day. They always lead off with a story about the stars and end with a few minutes of information to make it look like the show was all about helping someone when it was really all about the sensationalism of a terrible situation.

When I checked my email this morning three people had sent me "jokes" in reference to Chris Brown. I found it hard to believe that someone would think that anything about this situation is funny. There are so many layers that it's hard to get into. Rihanna and Chris are both victims. I know most people probably wouldn't agree with that assessment, but I stand by it.

Rihanna was beaten and is now battered and bruised both physically and emotionally. It has to be hard to believe that someone you love would hurt you the way she has been hurt. I'm sure her whole being is going through a tug of war right now. It's bad enough to go through this, but to have your pain thrown in your face for the world to see has to be extremely hard. My heart goes out to her.

Chris Brown says he watched his mother being abused. We all know that the experiences of our past are what shape our future. I'm sure he never thought he would end up in this situation. I'm not sure he realizes how serious things are for him. Why would he be out at bars and jet skiing? I find myself wondering what they people around him are thinking. When does the counseling his statement claimed he would be getting begin? I know most people see him as a villan but I find myself feeling sorry for him. He obviously has a lot of issues he needs to work out. I guess it's the mother in me. Chris is only a year older than my son. I feel like he is a victim of the machismo young men, and especially young black men, feel they must have. They don't all put their hands on their girlfriends, but people are different. I really hope he gets help. Most people just want to throw him away. I'm not sure what that solves. He's still young and hopefully his way of thinking can be improved before it's too late.

I said I wasn't going to blog about this issue, but all the coverage has forced me and this is what I do when I have something on my mind. As I am typing i'm watching another promo for a domestic violence show and the lead in is, you guessed it, Rihanna and Chris. We all know what happened to them. If you want to do a show on the subject do it. There's no need to have their faces plastered all over your promo. How can they heal if their situation is constantly being thrown in their face?

I pray for the young people of our society. I think the way of the world has taken such a terrible turn. This tabloid society we live in disgusts me at times. I don't want to see between some chicks legs when she gets out of her limo or hear every detail of someone's life just because they're an entertainer.

An obviously mentally challenged woman makes a terrible decision and has eight babies to go along with the six she can barely care for and all of a sudden she's fresh meat and they're delving into every aspect of her past. I pray for those babies. I can only imagine what our society will be like by the time they're Chris and Rihanna's age.


A Free Spirit Butterfly said...

I stand UP for Domestic Violence! I use to be a victim and it was difficult not knowing how to get away from "him" at such a young age. But that's my past and now I'm here to help in any way I can!

Welcome back sister!
Love you!

Keith said...

Welcome Back Tammy!! Sorry I haven't been by here in awhile..
Take your time recovering and know that there are people who love you and who await your next words of wisdom.

Tha BossMack TopSoil said...

Ass whippin's happen all tha time, especially ones at that age. However, Since they are at tha forefront of an entire generation, tha light is shinning.

SLC said...

Unfortunately there are clusters in our society in which Ass Whippins are the norm, not the exception. In those clusters, men talk about how Chris kicked dat btches azz, while women in those clusters ask, "I wonder what she did to "DESERVE"?. The answer is, and will always be nothing (or nuthin of nuffin). Right now agents and publicists are scrambling to protect there casH cOwS. I hope some people that really love them, not their fame and fortune come to their aid.

The Fitness Diva said...

@ SLC:
Yes, the same sick ass clusters I have built and continue to distance my life away from. It shouldn't still be a norm anywhere.

I hope that the media spotlight dies down and Ms. Rihanna gets to clear her head and think for herself for a change. Hopefully the right answers will come to her.
Anyway, the last rumor was that she broke it off from him for not getting rid of his "cougar" manager?
Yeh...I'm a victim of this damn gossip, too! ;)

untoong said...

Great Post!

Lamika said...

"Ass whippin's happen all tha time..."