Wednesday, September 3, 2008


People hate on the down low. It's so sad...

I'm doing a few things in my life that i'm proud of. I've shared some of these things with people and have realized that some aren't as happy for me as they seem. My sister, Char, once told me that it's not always good to tell people things. I didn't want to believe that at first, but I have come to find that it's true.

I read between the lines of the comments that people make, or see that they try to change the subject when I talk about what i'm doing. They say little things with a fake smile and think they're being slick, but i'm a pisces and very intuitive. I know fake when I see, hear, and read it. At first I was a little hurt about it, then pissed off, now I don't really give a damn.

One of my friends is doing big things with music right now. I'm very proud of him because I know how hard he works. He's behind the scenes. We work together. He talks about what's going on with the music a lot. I understand how it feels to be excited about something and want to tell people about what you're doing because I feel the same way. I look at some people when he is talking and they're making faces and rolling their eyes. It's not because he's bragging or anything like that, it's because they're haters.

When people don't have things going in their lives, they can't stand it that others do. As I always tell my children, misery loves company. People try to keep you down, but you can't let them. You have to keep hustling and wipe the dirt off your shoulder.

While I was in North Carolina for my family reunion, I got so much support and encouragement that it put the whole hater thing in perspective. I came back to New York feeling hater proof.

So, while i'm brushing the haters off I wanted to take the time to thank those who support me.

Thank you to my husband, who doesn't like to read, for being so supportive of me and taking the time to read my book and give me constructive criticism and ideas that have helped to make it even better.

Thank you to my kids for always asking me how my book is coming along. Thank you Ratique for always commenting on how hard i'm working to finish and offering to get me something to drink or eat when i'm deep in writing thought. Thank you Lamika for convincing me to send my novel off to publishers when I am done just to see what happens. I had it in my mind that I wanted to do all the work and didn't want any outsiders reading my stuff. Thank you for helping me to see otherwise. Also, thank you for taking the time to read my blog every day.

Thank you to my sisters for reading things I have written over the years and always encouraging me to keep going. It's appreciated more than you know. Thanks for reading my blog too. Whenever you see a comment for Char or Yvette, those are my sisters.

Thank you to my family in NC for bigging me up over the weekend. It meant a lot. It's nice to know that when people are asking questions about what you're doing it's because they genuinely want to know and have your best interest at heart. Thanks for the advice Uncle Lee, and thanks Auntie Ann for spreading the word and putting me in touch with people who may be able to help me finance the publishing of my book.

Thank you to two of my co-workers, Chandra and Cecil. I want to thank Chandra for bringing me lunch every day for about two months so that I could spend that time on the computer. There aren't many people who would have done that for me. We usually go to lunch together and if I ever need to stay behind and get some writing done she is more than happy to make sure that I have something to eat. I'm not sure if I ever told her how much I appreciate that. Cecil has always encouraged me. I'm not sure if he knows how much it means to me, so I wanted to put it out into the universe. He knows what it's like to have that passion that drives you that you want to be successful with. We share a bond of creativity that not a lot of people can understand.

Thanks to my brother Lateef who is one of the few people I let read my stuff because I value his opinion. He's one of the smartest people I know.

Thank you Yvonne for all your help and encouragement with my blog. You are a true diva and I appreciate all of your advice. I'm sure i'll be asking for more.

I have to thank my mother for her gentle encouragement. I talk to her and she'll say, "How's the book coming along bay?" and make me smile. I know that she wants me to succeed and I love her so much.

I also have to thank my father who encouraged me so much when he was alive and inspires me now that he's gone. I hope that he is smiling down on me and saying, "I'm proud of you Bugaloo."

Thank you all...

To all the undercover haters, I know who you are. Thank you to you as well. Your hate makes me stronger. I have learned to dodge your negative energy because I feel so positive about what i'm doing and have so many wonderful people behind me. Maybe i'll give you a free copy of the book when it comes out...........NOT!


LATEEF said...

Thanks for the shoutout! Nah that was love! I will read anything you see fit to bless me with reading. Love U girl.

Don't sweat the BITCHASSNESS AKA

Anonymous said...

Your blog was very deep, and very understanding. I can relate, because I feel the same way at times.
But for the record anyone who's in my circle of friends and who is doing something positive with their life I'm happy.I may not say it or ask question, because being a Pisces as you should know we're kind of private when it comes to our business. So with that said I've always been proud of what you've accomplished even if I don't say it often. Peace my Sista and keep doing what you do.

Don said...

They don't deserve a free copy of the book. LOL. I feel you, since they want to hate, make them pay.

I enjoyed reading this post. It spoke of a strong black woman who has reached the point in her life where she understands what she's faced with. Like you, I've been there. And I've sat and thought about the times where someone Hating held me back, unconsciously.

SO now I don't play into the hands of a hater. Instead, as you stated, I tend to become more motivated and show even more love and respect to the ones who don't hate, the ones who only encourage me to aim high because the sky is the limit.

In the event that your haters might be reading this, I'd like to say one thing: "Hi Hater."

Strongblkwmn said...

Nice to see you Trix. I know you got my back and always have. You just gave me an idea for my next post. It's always nice to know that you have folks in your life who support you.

LOL @ Don.....Hi Hater. I love it!

bigolebossman said...

How you gone put me on blast, saying all the nice things about me and I haven't logged on to your blog not one time. Only because I've been very busy. I think about it all the time, but just didn't get to it. I'll try to make it a part of my day from here on in. But in all regards, you know I'm very proud of you, and just to let you know, if you don't have haters in your life, your just not hustling hard enough.


The Fitness Diva said...

GIRL! lol

Don't hold anything back, now! lol

I hear ya 110%. I've had haters since kindergarten, and I thank them all, It's because of them that I refuse to fail.

Don't ever tell me I can't do something. Cause then I'll do it in circles around you, and ignore you the whole while. That is how you give them the slap they deserve for doubting you in the first place.

Keep up what you're doing!

You are on your way! ;)

Chandra said...

Hey Tammy:

Thanx for the shoutout, I admire the way you write, hell I wish i could write like that.. But, that's your gift from God and you are using your talent very well.

I'm so proud of you. I'm just waiting for you to finish your book. So I can read it and be even more proud of you...

God Bless you and Keep your head up.

Much Love, Chandra....

rebecca said...

In A Station of the Metro

The apparition of these faces in the crowd;

Petals on a wet, black bough.

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