Friday, October 3, 2008

Independent Woman

I watched the debate last night and I was going to blog about it, but changed my mind. The wreck that is Sarah Palin is just not worth the space. I'm tired of complaining about her lack of, well, everything. I may have changed my mind if she would have given a straight answer for at least one of the questions she was asked.

I respect Sarah Palin's gangster as a woman. Running for the second highest office in the United States is not a small thing. It takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there like that. I respect all independent, strong-willed women who handle their business. It doesn't matter whether you have a man. As long as you make it do what it do you are an independent woman. You take care of yourself and don't depend on anyone else, and stand on your own two. Do your thing lady.

An independent woman has her own cash flow, takes care of her responsibilites, and is content and happy with herself. She doesn't take nonsense, asks for nothing, and usually gives a lot. Life doesn't scare her and she's willing to take a chance because she has faith in her abilities.

No one is born this way. We all have to go through things to get to where we want to be. Eventually, you get to the crossroad and have to decide who you want to be and how you want to live. It's not easy. I'm still working on it, but I feel myself changing. I'm coming into my own personal glory. I love my man, but don't need him. There was a time when I did.

I've had my dependant moments. The times when I felt like I couldn't make it. The times when I worried more about what other people thought than how I felt. Those times now serve as the memories that have made me stronger. I've realized that I cannot allow people's opinions to cloud my judgment or my decisions. My thing is my thing. If you have a problem with it, get out of my lane because i'm at the point in my life where I will run right through you.

Life is good. I see it through different eyes. My rose colored glasses are now a shade of grey. Everything's not rosey, but it ain't all black and white either. I have victory in my sights and it will be mine.

I'm independent in so many ways now. My thoughts are mine, my cash is mine, my life is mine. I'm standing on my own two. Yes I want you, but I don't need you. I'm independent and it feels so good.


Keith said...

I agree. We all become who we are by what we go through. Some learn to be independent and courageous,while others get broken and become complacent with their lot in life. In addition to being independent..We have to have courage and self confidence..I believe they call that swagger.

A Free Spirit Butterfly said...

That use to be my claim to fame. I don't want that title anymore. Being that way wouldn't allow someone to love me for who I really was because I held on so tight, I didn't know who I was. Now that I found me, I want to share her with someone worthy and someone who won't let me be so independent that I won't lean on him. Although God is my strength, I welcome early arms to hold me and ears to hear my fears and dreams and a soul to show me more of who I can be. I stand on my own with confidence and finances but I want to stand togethe with "him" whoever he may be (when the time is right)

A Free Spirit Butterfly said...

Typo - I said, early but I meant "earthly" someone down here, until I get to heaven ;-)

Strongblkwmn said...

@ Keith - Swagger would definitely be the word.

@ Butterfly - I'm the opposite. I've spent several years being wife and mother and not really caring for me. This is my time to be independent. I have a lot of catching up to do.